Letting go of the old...
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Im sorry I have no idea why the post extended like that. If anyone has any idea how to fix that please let me know.
“For I know the plans I have for you,”declares the Lord”, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11).
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It’s a normal feeling. I have had several cats that I felt that way about. Unfortunatly, I had to give them up when I was forced to move back in with my mom (she has allergies really bad). The new kitty will not take Cindy’s place. The new kitty will help ease the pain of Cindy’s passing but not eliminate it. I say go for it and get the new kitty without feeling guilty. He/She will help you remember and celebrate Cindy at the same time.
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From one crazy cat lady to another, I completely understand your relationship with Cindy. It sounds just like my relationship with Simeon. He was the “main man” in my life for a long time so he & I have a very strong bond. He knows when I’m sick or upset and will always come comfort me. I call him my little kitty nightingale. :) Anyway, I’m not sure how to tell you “get over it.” I’m not sure you can. I dread the day one of my kitties pass. For me, it will be like losing a very close family member. My cats are more like children to me than cats. They are my babies as far as I’m concerned. You’ll probably always miss Cindy but that doesn’t mean you can’t let another sweet little furry face into your life and heart. Not everyone believes that animals experience life after death but I do. Cindy is waiting on the other side for you and one day you will be reunited. Try to enjoy your new kitty and I wanna see pics! :)
Bobbi :) Wife to Chris; Mom to Skylar; Aunt to Anastasia, Adrionna, Robert & Donald; Meowmie to Simeon, Izzy, Alex, Graycie, Lexi & Peyton
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I think you have to try and change your thinking. Instead of thinking of this as a betrayal of Cindy, think of this as honoring Cindy. You aren’t replacing her. You are continuing her legacy. She taught you about worthiness and saving grace. And you are passing that on to another furry little kitty. She would be (is) proud of you for it.
There may be a bit of CIndy in this new kitty. I believe animals come and go in our lives for specific reasons. That they bring us something specific. It could well be that this new cat is specifically chosen for you. It might sound weird… but I’d bet that our Cindy may well have something to do with this new pet.
Liz, Mom to Teagan (3) and Zach (6 mos)
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Submitted by Nickita Bananna on May 14, 2008 at 11:21 PM
As some of you know I am going to be adopting a cat within the next few weeks. But I can not help but feel horribly guilty about something.
I had a cat named Cindy for 20 years. Oh wow, I know I am gonna sound like the crazy cat lady, but she was my absolute best friend. We grew up together, and we had a unique bond. I found her when I was a little girl, her owner wasnt taking care of her and she was actually hurt by him. Cindy was such a wonderful cat to have, and to me she was sooo much more than a cat. But she wasnt guick to let people in. But me and Cindy were unbelievably close. So many people didnt like Cindy, she didnt want them to pet her and would even just get this attitude if you acted like you were going to walk by her. lol.She was in all honesty a b**chy kitty.
Well she past away 2 yeaars ago, and I’m still pretty upset of course. And now that I am going to be getting another precious kitty to add to my family. I feel guilty, like Im letting go of Cindy almost.
Anyone have any suggestions on how to get over this feeling. Or has anyone ever felt this way? Dont get me wrong I am incredibly excited about adopting a cat. I just dont want this grief inside my heart any longer.
“For I know the plans I have for you,”declares the Lord”, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you a hope and a future” (Jeremiah 29:11).