Is it just me?

yeah men do view things differently..but not THAT diff..im sure hed have a cow if you had did that.

Hey Nicki, girl I am so sorry. That is definatley a wrong thing to do. If he wants to be with you then he needs to stop looking on the internet. He is not the one for you. But don’t give up, there is still someone out there for you. Talk to you later.

Lessons I’ve learned the hard way…

I think your ex is right that a lot of men do not think it’s cheating unless there is sex, but that’s why we have to communicate our expectations. If you want something serious, you and he both have to talk about what is expected from that “relationship.” Otherwise, if it hasn’t been discussed, he will always say “I didn’t realize it was wrong” or “I didn’t know we were exclusive” etc.

Sounds like this guy wasn’t as serious as you are. If you’re really into him, don’t break things off completely, just back off some. Take your relationship back a notch, start seeing other people yourself and see how he feels about it. If he wants to see the relationship go further, he’ll get rid of his other prospects and focus solely on you.

I think in your heart you know the right answer so it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.

My only advise to you is to find a man of higher character. A man of character would never see the situation the way the bf did or your ex.

In that case, I think you made the choice that was right for you.

Cheating is emotional and/or physical and there are men that think an affair involves sex. I just saw an episode of Kings and Queens last night about this very same situation. Doug saw Deek with a long time friend but Deek was going to dinner with her talking to her, saying he was working late, but thought it wasn’t cheating because he hadn’t slept with her. Doug told his wife she blew up and felt that it was because he hadn’t told his wife about his friend at all and lying in the process. Women are from Venus and Men from Mars.

I found myself in this very same situation 4 years ago. I met my husband online; it went from chatting online to phone conversations to finally meeting in person. When the relationship got serious we both made the decision to cut all ties with other people. However, later I found out that he continued to communicate with other women online. We got into a huge argument and his point was that he was not having sex with these women “just talking”. I was very disturbed by that comment that I abruptly ended the relationship. He could not understand why I would end it just because of an online message; I turned the table on him and asked what he would do if he found out that I was still talking to other guys. He could not answer me. Never the less, he continued to pursue me after the break-up. He finally decided to completely disconnect his internet account. Today, we have just recently celebrated our 2 year wedding anniversary. Although he did not think he wasn’t cheating, what matter was that I did, and I wasn’t about to compromise with my beliefs. He had to do something drastic to gain my trust back.

Have you ever read the book “He’s Just Not That Into You?” It’s been awhile but I have read it. The book just talks about what you derserve out of a realtionship and what not to settle for. It’s the cold hard truth. One of the things that hit home for me is when the book said you will never find “the one” if you are just staying with someone in the meantime. Anywho I am happily married and I have always heard when you meet the right guy you will just know. Shortly after meeting my husband I “just knew” he was the one. The thing that made him the right guy is the fact that I was the center of the world and he focused his whole life around me. He made me such a priority and since he was so into me he wasnt doing that online stuff or calling other girls or “old friends.” You deserve the best and dont settle for less. You will find someone who treats you right and makes you the most important thing in his life and he wont be interested in all that other crap!